February 1, 2013 by lucieromarin
I remember reading ‘The Courage to be Chaste’ many years ago, and being less-than-enthused by the suggestions it offered for living a meaningful single life. The reader was told that she could be the one to bring extra board games to family functions and could take the time to look appreciatively at photographs of people’s babies. (Okay, I’m paraphrasing a distant memory and am open to correction as to the details, but the point was that we were placed squarely in the category of there-to-serve-married-people. We were not told that we could become artists, or statesmen, or great philanthropists.)
I’ve been thinking about this. Given the premise that God makes neither rubbish nor mistakes, there must be more in our circumstances to be grateful for than the fact that said circumstances give us a chance to say “Aw” and play Scrabble.
So I’ve set myself a challenge, which is to come up with ten good reasons to be glad that things have worked out (or not worked out) as they have. Of course, as I’m not dead yet, it’s possible that the real reason for everything will only be discovered years from now (if, for example, I marry the Prince of Ruritania in my forties; he later ascends the throne and I become the Queen of a small European nation.) So, given that I can’t see all the ends yet, the reasons for gratitude can include some of the experiences of the past which I could not have had without my immersion in this particular culture and which I would not exchange.
However, the reasons chosen cannot be overly pious. “It’s really good that things have worked out this way because it really teaches me to trust God/submit to His Will,” doesn’t count. They’re also not to be general reasons for gratitude, such as “I’m glad I live in a peaceful, First World country.” I’m looking for roadkill-specific reasons; reasons to be glad that I did not get what I wanted.
I’m open to suggestions. There must be something!